What is Sex Therapy?
The idea of “sex therapy” can elicit a myriad of images, many of which may be misconceptions. Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy that brings topics related to sex and sexuality into prominence within a therapeutic context. Like most other forms of therapy, the hope is that by discussing your experiences with a therapist, you will enhance your insight, modify what you find distressing, and live a life that is authentic and rewarding to you.
What do People Talk About in Sex Therapy?
This is entirely up to you. There is no pressure to talk about anything that you don’t want to or that would make you feel uncomfortable. As with any other relationship, your relationship with your therapist will evolve and grow, and trust and safety may take time to develop, especially around a topic that can be laden with shame. Your therapist is there to guide and support this process, at a pace that works for you.
While this list is by no means exhaustive, folks commonly seek support for the following; the belief that one’s sexual desire is either overly high or far too low; challenges related to orgasm; sex that is painful; non-consensual infidelity within (a) relationship(s); navigating consent and boundaries; recongizing and reversing sexual side effects of medications; challenges relating to maintaining an erection; a greater understanding of one’s sexuality; self-judgement or shame concerning one’s sexuality or sexual fantasies; reshaping sexual scritps; sexual insecurities that may or may not be related to unrealistic portrayals of “what sexuality should be;” polyamory; and, talking about the socially constructed nature of what we find erotic.
Sex therapy is congruent with many aspects of our lives. Questioning your gender expression, gender identity, or sexuality, navigating challenges you may be experiencing with coming out and/or transitioning, or exploring the impact sexual abuse or sexual violence may be having on your current experiences of sex or sexuality, are also issues that you may consider bringing to sex therapy.
Can I Bring my Partner(s)? Can I Come Alone?
Yes. You are welcome to bring your partner(s), so long as they have consented to come to therapy with you. Your therapist may ask to have a session with each of you individually, and then offer suggestions for how to best proceed. You are also more than welcome to come on your own.
How Do I Book an Appointment?
To book an appointment, email firstname.lastname@example.org or call (416) 531-0727. If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to ask.