Adults Counselling

Finding meaning through loss & grief

Heartbreak Hotel: Finding meaning through loss or grief

I had the unfortunate displeasure of going through two fairly significant losses at the beginning of the year. The first loss I experienced was the loss of my grandmother (Nanny) and the second loss was the ending of a five-year romantic relationship.  Because of the proximity of these two losses, I was, to be honest, a blubbering train wreck most days of the week. On one hand there was someone who I wanted to reach out to so badly but their voice was no longer present,

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How to find happiness

If You’re Happy and You Know It, Clap Your Hands!

A common question, or rather direction, I receive is some variation of “I just want to be happy, give me the tools to get there.” Alas I present you,

How to reach true happiness

  1. You can’t.

Now, the smug part of me so badly wants to leave this post at that, however because of the silence from my previous demand (clapping if you’re happy), the small part of me that likes to hear myself speak is shouting a little louder today.

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How to be Perfect All the Time……..NOT

How to be Perfect All the Time……..NOT

Mothers, brothers, daughters, employees, employers, co-workers, husbands, wives……Yes, that’s right –just about everyone at one time or another has the unreasonable expectation that we (or someone we know) should be perfect. I don’t know about you but I confess that I have found myself on both sides of that unattainable fence at one time or another. But how does this ridiculous notion come about? How do we come to expect that as a normal human being, we should be perfect? Perhaps worse, how did we get the idea that another person should be meeting our needs,

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Are you there time? It's me. Busy

Are You There Time? It’s me, Busy.

A budding assumption of there not being enough time, that we are running out of time, and we are altogether too busy to, I suppose, enjoy life, has been taking over the airways in and out of my office. When asking friends, family, colleagues, and clients the (not so) simple question of “How are you?” I am often responded with some variation of “Good. Busy, but good”. Busyness has somehow created an enemy of time and an all-encompassing notion that when it come to busy and time,

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Time for Change | Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Catch it — Challenge it — Change it

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) strategies really work. In this post we provide you with one strategy that you can work through on your own.

The goal of cognitive behaviour therapy is to teach clients that while they cannot control every aspect of the world around them, they can take control of how they interpret and deal with things in their environment.

The following is one CBT strategy that you apply in your life:
1. Catch It:

“catching” negative thoughts means gaining an awareness of negative thinking as soon as possible.

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What stops me from going for counselling?

In my thirty years of private practice as a psychotherapist I have seen many clients who have experienced early resistance in seeking professional help. One of the reasons seems to be having to bring change your life. We all know very well that change is a normal part of life, and everybody is confronted with change at some stage in their life. However, change can be both very threatening and very frightening. Feeling afraid of change is not a sign of weakness.

In this article I would like to talk about some early resistances,

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Reunification Counselling: Re-establishing a positive relationship between parent & child

This article seeks to inform readers about the psychological services related to reunification counselling which I provide at Toronto Psychological Services in Toronto, Ontario. It is a focused article that will delineate the process of re-establishing a parent-child relationship after there has been a significant break in contact and/or parental alienation.

Adults marry or form intimate relationships with a partner with the intention to remain with that partner for the rest of their lives. But it’s a well established fact that it doesn’t always work out that way.

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