When it comes to parenting, there isn’t exactly a ‘one size fits all’ approach for how to go about raising a child. As a parent, limits that you probably never thought you would reach have been. By limits, I am referring to the cannon blasting emotions that can unravel and burst at the seams when your child is not listening, quarrelling with you, making the same mistakes over and over again, having meltdowns, etc. When a child persistently misbehaves, it can be undeniably daunting and overwhelming to try to figure out what to do.
“Something’s different about Johnny…”
Johnny used to be a happy-go-lucky, active boy, who enjoyed spending time with his friends and doing well in school. In the past few months, however, he has lost interest in what he used to enjoy.
While he has always been into being healthy, things took a turn for the worse after he heard about virus outbreaks on the news and has since become obsessed with getting sick. He has begun to take multiple daily showers and has also taken to washing his hands so often that it is to the point that his hands are raw to the touch and on the verge of bleeding.
Worrying can be beneficial
Without first jumping to the worst-case scenario, let it be clear that worrying can be very beneficial, as it can serve a number of important, life-preserving functions.
Worrying can protect us
What might such benefits be? Well, for starters, worrying can protect us, as it can help us think about the right things at the right time to help keep us safe. Take for example when one feels worried about travelling alone in the dark. Such a worry can serve as a signal that danger is probable and therefore can help to inform how we make decisions.
The Importance of Parental Leadership
In a recent Maclean’s article entitled, “The Collapse of Parenting”, writer Cathy Gulli argues how kids today are suffering because parents are no longer in charge. She identifies how many parents of today’s generation are deferring to their kids because, in essence, they have lost confidence in themselves and have relinquished parental authority.
What is referred to as the Culture of Disrespect, is proposed to be facilitated by the collapse of parenting and has been shown to have led to an explosion in kids becoming more fragile,
Parents have a well-known goal of keeping their children safe while they grow up and explore the world. The parents’ job is to protect, while the children’s’ job is to explore. Naturally, these opposing tasks can create tension. As tension mounts, changes begin to take fold. During early adolescence in particular, teens tend to turn away from their parents, where their attention is focused inward on their own fascinating, yet possibly overwhelming, changes.
Adolescence has long been documented as a difficult period due to conflicts with parents and other authority figures,
Many parents worry that getting a psychoeducational assessment means there is something wrong with their child. This is a myth – plain and simple.
Unfortunately, due to such misbeliefs, along with other factors such as a lack of information, avoidance, etc., it is often the case that parents don’t send their child for a psychoeducational assessment until further into the schooling years, where larger problems begin to take fold, such as harder to manage behavioural issues and/or plummeting grades.