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Are you there time? It's me. Busy

Are You There Time? It’s me, Busy.

A budding assumption of there not being enough time, that we are running out of time, and we are altogether too busy to, I suppose, enjoy life, has been taking over the airways in and out of my office. When asking friends, family, colleagues, and clients the (not so) simple question of “How are you?” I am often responded with some variation of “Good. Busy, but good”. Busyness has somehow created an enemy of time and an all-encompassing notion that when it come to busy and time,

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How do I parent? Confused Parenting

Confused Parenting | How do I parent?

“The children of today are the leaders of tomorrow.” Talk about pressure for parents!

A recent article in Maclean’s Magazine depicting the downfall of parenting has been making the rounds, and in my humble opinion, ultimately adding to, and fueling the confusion fire. The article relays the collapse of parenting being partly to blame for kids becoming overweight, overmedicated, anxious, and disrespectful of themselves and those around them. It is targeting the laissez-faire parenting style and blaming parents for relinquishing their parental authority,

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There are hurt individuals everywhere, the bullied and the bully

“Kids are Ruthless”, says Society: Let’s Take Ownership

Kids will be kids, Kids can be mean, ruthless, horrifying, [insert any word that associates with anything less than pleasant] to one another. How many times have we heard variations of these statements, or have stated them ourselves?

Phrases such as these are instinctively said when one hears of a bullying episode on the news, on the radio, or through a conversation with another. It has become easy to nonchalantly accept these words as the truth, and move on to the next part of our day.

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Hot Topic: The Collapse of Parenting

The Hot Topic: “The Collapse of Parenting”

The Importance of Parental Leadership

In a recent Maclean’s article entitled, “The Collapse of Parenting”, writer Cathy Gulli argues how kids today are suffering because parents are no longer in charge. She identifies how many parents of today’s generation are deferring to their kids because, in essence, they have lost confidence in themselves and have relinquished parental authority.

What is referred to as the Culture of Disrespect, is proposed to be facilitated by the collapse of parenting and has been shown to have led to an explosion in kids becoming more fragile,

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Help your Teen, Adolescent, or Child find Motivation to Succeed

Motivating Teens – 5 tips

Help your Teen, Adolescent, or Child find Motivation to Succeed

Motivating Teens is a topic that concerns a lot of parents. When I was a teen, I struggled with finding the motivation to do homework, study for tests and exams, go to school, go to soccer practice, do chores around the house; really anything.

It appeared as though when faced with any type of task (even the ones I enjoyed doing), it became this long drawn out battle between whoever was trying to get me to oblige and myself (sorry Mom and Dad).

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Is it ADHD or something else?

Is it ADHD or Something Else?

Many people who were diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or Attention Deficit Disorder in the early 2000’s have come to question the exclusivity of that diagnosis, especially when it comes to learning. Psychological research over the past 2 decades has shown that many of the symptoms exhibited by children, teens or adults might be something quite different altogether.

There is no doubt that skilled diagnosticians have determined that some individuals were misdiagnosed with ADHD when their symptoms were essential features of other neurodevelopmental disorders such as autism spectrum disorder,

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How to Understand Your Child’s World

How to Understand Your Child’s World

Have you ever found yourself trying to understand what in the world your child is saying? Or immediately, without thought, told them they are wrong? Or further, found yourself questioning how to handle their behaviours? Or what to make of their outlandish beliefs?

It is important to remember that the learning process is a delicate thing. The way we are now, with our big and beautiful adult minds, is not the same as when we were young. Adults are wired to think about jobs,

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How many hours does it take to complete an Educational Assessment?

How many hours does it take to complete an Educational Assessment?

This is one of the most common questions that clients and parents ask when they call to inquire about a comprehensive educational assessment that they can give to elementary schools, high schools, colleges, universities and graduate admission facilities.

At Toronto Psychological Services, we never over-book. The day a client attends the one-hour intake session and pays a retainer. ALL the hours considered necessary for the assessment, including testing, scoring and writing the report,

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Sexting: it's just not worth it

Sexting: It’s Just Not Worth It!

If you are a teen you know that sexting is quite common. Has someone asked you, at least once, to send naked or partially naked pictures of yourself by text or email? If you are sexting maybe it’s time to stop and think about the possible consequences.

Stop Sexting and think about these 3 things:

1. Is sexting the latest means of bullying?

While sexting is definitely on the increase worldwide many teens feel the pressure of participating even if they don’t feel comfortable exchanging intimate images.

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Time for Change | Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Catch it — Challenge it — Change it

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) strategies really work. In this post we provide you with one strategy that you can work through on your own.

The goal of cognitive behaviour therapy is to teach clients that while they cannot control every aspect of the world around them, they can take control of how they interpret and deal with things in their environment.

The following is one CBT strategy that you apply in your life:
1. Catch It:

“catching” negative thoughts means gaining an awareness of negative thinking as soon as possible.

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