Maryn Hanmer, MFT

Finding meaning through loss & grief

Heartbreak Hotel: Finding meaning through loss or grief

I had the unfortunate displeasure of going through two fairly significant losses at the beginning of the year. The first loss I experienced was the loss of my grandmother (Nanny) and the second loss was the ending of a five-year romantic relationship.  Because of the proximity of these two losses, I was, to be honest, a blubbering train wreck most days of the week. On one hand there was someone who I wanted to reach out to so badly but their voice was no longer present,

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HAPPY

How to find happiness

If You’re Happy and You Know It, Clap Your Hands!

A common question, or rather direction, I receive is some variation of “I just want to be happy, give me the tools to get there.” Alas I present you,

How to reach true happiness

  1. You can’t.

Now, the smug part of me so badly wants to leave this post at that, however because of the silence from my previous demand (clapping if you’re happy), the small part of me that likes to hear myself speak is shouting a little louder today.

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Parenting children: when “NO” doesn’t work.

Parenting children: when “NO” doesn’t work

How to train your dog. Parenting children: when “NO” doesn’t work. *

I am expecting a little bundle of joy to finally call my own—a dog that is. In light of this very exciting event, I have been endlessly reading books about what to do/ not do when training a puppy.  My most recent literature endeavor has been about the power of positive dog training. The premise of this book is to set your puppy up for success rather than failure. Now, before you leave me because you did not come here to learn how to train a puppy,

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Are you there time? It's me. Busy

Are You There Time? It’s me, Busy.

A budding assumption of there not being enough time, that we are running out of time, and we are altogether too busy to, I suppose, enjoy life, has been taking over the airways in and out of my office. When asking friends, family, colleagues, and clients the (not so) simple question of “How are you?” I am often responded with some variation of “Good. Busy, but good”. Busyness has somehow created an enemy of time and an all-encompassing notion that when it come to busy and time,

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How do I parent? Confused Parenting

Confused Parenting | How do I parent?

“The children of today are the leaders of tomorrow.” Talk about pressure for parents!

A recent article in Maclean’s Magazine depicting the downfall of parenting has been making the rounds, and in my humble opinion, ultimately adding to, and fueling the confusion fire. The article relays the collapse of parenting being partly to blame for kids becoming overweight, overmedicated, anxious, and disrespectful of themselves and those around them. It is targeting the laissez-faire parenting style and blaming parents for relinquishing their parental authority,

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Help your Teen, Adolescent, or Child find Motivation to Succeed

Motivating Teens – 5 tips

Help your Teen, Adolescent, or Child find Motivation to Succeed

Motivating Teens is a topic that concerns a lot of parents. When I was a teen, I struggled with finding the motivation to do homework, study for tests and exams, go to school, go to soccer practice, do chores around the house; really anything.

It appeared as though when faced with any type of task (even the ones I enjoyed doing), it became this long drawn out battle between whoever was trying to get me to oblige and myself (sorry Mom and Dad).

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How to Understand Your Child’s World

How to Understand Your Child’s World

Have you ever found yourself trying to understand what in the world your child is saying? Or immediately, without thought, told them they are wrong? Or further, found yourself questioning how to handle their behaviours? Or what to make of their outlandish beliefs?

It is important to remember that the learning process is a delicate thing. The way we are now, with our big and beautiful adult minds, is not the same as when we were young. Adults are wired to think about jobs,

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